“Are U successful? Are U happy?”
Successful and happy. It seems we agree that these are two different things. A person can be successful and unhappy. Can be happy but not successful. Can be successful and happy, and could also not successful and unhappy.
“Happiness and Success”
Success doesn’t guarantee happiness, says many people. Especially not a success, more doesn’t guarantee happiness, says some of the others. Really important for us to succeed?
Let us briefly reflect on the meaning of success. If someone wants something and he got it, so he called a success. If the person before didn’t want something, then suddenly get it, also called a success? No, he’s not called a success. So successful is the name for the achievement of something desired.
Now let us reflect on what it’s happy. There’s a comfortable, no happy, no joy, no happiness. Someone is lying on the beach. Her body feels comfortable siliran enjoy the breeze and the sound waves that slammed into the sand. Sense of warmth and relaxation flowing through her body, her heart was happy and peaceful. Is she happy? Someone else was doing rafting sports, fighting hard to overcome the current shocks to the right and left. Scrabble on the edge of death surveillance.Energy depleted, the body feels very tired. Heart felt strangely cheerful and happy. Is he happy?
Another story. This is for the umpteenth time that he felt the same thrill. Something inexplicable beautiful. Something so touching hearts. Before him a big smile of a child with a small and crooked legs, legs that no authority supports the tiny body.This child stricken with polio at his age to 3 years. And since then, has only five years he lay in his bed. Today, with the provision of wheelchair used a somewhat rickety, the boy get his chance again to explore the world. “Oh God, thank U for give me a chance to give some hope to others” … she whispered in her heart. is this person happy?
In contrast to the success, happiness is more difficult to assess. If success is measured by how far a person towards achieving what he wants, then happily appeared in a miraculous way. He subjectively, he felt. Thus he was difficult to measure, except by experiencing it.
Someone who’s happy can be said to succeed, if that feeling of happiness that’s what he wanted, and then he grabbed it. Other people can also be successful, but not happy, because it’s not happy dreams. Maybe he covet wealth, and achieve it. Maybe crave fame, and also grabbed it. That’s why there’s a phrase, successfully achieve happiness. So, success is the attainment status, while happy is one object that can be used as goals.
If happiness is the object, then the question is: “what kind of feeling happy?” There are many proposals on this subject, ranging from physical, characterized by the emergence of certain substances in the brain, until the very philosophical as the emergence of a sense of being loved God. Let’s take the example of one of the definitions, the characteristics proposed by Rick Foster in the book “How We Choose to be Happy?”.
True happiness is a feeling of strong and lasting sense of calm, happy, capable, and full control over U’rself. Happy also means knowing the conditions and desires, to better respond to real needs rather than the demands of others, consciously feel alive today, and be able to enjoy the fruits of life.
Criteria for the selection of Rick Foster proved to be a characteristic emotional and mental. Referring to the criteria was quite clear that we can achieve happiness through success by always set goals that can lead to such happy. Therefore, when the goal is reached, then reached too happy. In addition, because happiness is subjective, then we can even create a feeling of happiness all the way to success.
Can we be happy without success? Sure can, especially if it is intended only for U’rself. A person who’s poor, but able to appreciate the situation, of course he could feel the happiness. The problem arises when we talk about happiness is achieved by contributing to something beyond us, then it probably will not successfully inhibit the achievement of some happiness. Suppose someone who’s happy but the destitute is a father of 3 children. Once when her son was sick and he can’t afford to seek treatment, it may be when it’s very difficult to be happy. Similarly, when no food, not able to school, unable to spend time together, and so on.Because it’s a success is important. The more we succeed, the more likely to be happy by contributing to something beyond ourselves.
Due to success and happiness are two separate things, get happy to take us to succeed? U already know the answer, of course. If happiness is the goal we choose, it is capable of being happy alone is called a success. Many people experience, the decision to be happy eventually led them to achieve higher success and more.
“Intelligence, Success, and Happiness”
Happiness and success can be predicted! Happiness and success is the fruit of behavior. Therefore, if we have the behavior of people who are happy and successful, would one day be a happy and successful as well .. Behavior is the fruit of habits. The habit starts from attitude. Attitudes are influenced by the paradigm.Influenced by the knowledge paradigm. So, first is knowledge. Every day, a plentiful supply of knowledge around us. Ability to capture knowledge, process them, live them, and making it an action to achieve goals, heavily influenced by intelligence.
Dr. Stanley in his work “The Millionaire Next Door”, which contains a study of the millionaires in America showed that successful people have a pretty good intelligence. The billionaire who studied came from various backgrounds such as welding contractors, used goods sellers, farmers, pest exterminator, to coin seller.Clearly, they have one thing in common that’s very independent financially. Most of them live relatively modest compared to the amount of wealth. Their car’s like the average people, they are in residential homes the average person. They also get along with most people. Most of them do not like to appear in public. They mean well in school. Even if the dropouts, it’s because the economic conditions of families, not because they aren’t intelligent. So the millionaires it has intellectual intelligence, IQ, which is good. They also are the ones who tough, tenacious, patient, able to control themselves, community well, having a harmonious family, and various other things that become proof that they have emotional intelligence, EQ, which is good.All of them also agree that the spiritual life, ministry, and charity is a very important thing. Most of their income to donate 10 percent or more of gross income. They believe in God as the source giver, as an invisible companion, or often referred to as the “silent partner“. This shows that they have spiritual intelligence, a very good SQ.
Studies of people who are very successful shows that they also have other characteristics that stand out. First, they have a big dream, clear goals, and holding fast to the dream. Second, they don’t work alone, they are able to harness the power within him and around him. So, they developed two other intelligence as a complement of IQ-EQ-SQ. They developed the so-called intelligence Intelligence aspiration (aspiration Intelligence), and Intelligence Strength (Power Intelligence).Apparently the person successfully developed five intelligence with balanced! Fifth is what we call SEPIA Intelligence (Spiritual – Emotional – Power – Intellectual – Aspiration).
In the human side of a deeper, actually we have a divine gift that makes us unique.Foremost a divine gift is “the freedom to choose“. Of this important gift gifts other interrelated. Humans are equipped with the gift of self-awareness, imagination, conscience, and free will. Humans also have the gift of the process, namely love to learn and fun to ask. When combined the various gifts of this man is capable of building a civilization in the form of community social life, business, education, arts, and technology. On the inside, humans are also able to refine his understanding of humanity, the meaning of life, the meaning of a sacrifice, heroism and devotion.
Unfortunately, this gift is often buried by the busyness of everyday life. Sepia intelligence is an attempt to republish all the potential within us to achieve happiness and success.
1. Aspiration Intelligence
First it was the gift of self-awareness. Humans are able to realize his existence in this world. With this self-awareness can detect human needs and desires. Humans need to eat, want to live good, want to enjoy nature, want to create, want to achieve something, to have a meaning in life. Eventually move the gift of self-awareness first intelligence, that is the human ability to dream, create goals, and ideals. Humans are able aspires. Here’s intelligences aspiration (aspiration Intelligence), the intelligence to make the ideals.
Comparison study between the successful people of ordinary people show that intelligence is this aspiration to be one difference that really stands out. Most people don’t dare to think and dream big.
That’s why most people don’t achieve a great achievement, because … it was never dreamed of a great achievement! Studies of people who are happy, too, show that they are aware of have a desire to be happy, and tried to grab it. So they make happy as one purpose in life.
On the way humans achieve my goals and then realize that reaching goals or success are very different from happy.
2. Spiritual Intelligence
Apparently after it was realized by man, happy as a subjective feeling is determined more by a sense of meaning. A sense meaningful to other humans, for nature, and especially for large power of conscious human beings: God. Man’s search for meaning, this is the explanation why in the state of human pain and suffering in part, can still be smiling. Because happiness is created from a sense of meaning, and isn’t synonymous with achieving goals.
Awareness about the causes of happiness is the gift of moving the second intelligence, spiritual intelligence (Spiritual Intelligence). It’s human intelligence in giving meaning. Humans who have a high level of spiritual intelligence can become happier and live than their low level of spiritual intelligence. In a very bad condition and not expected, spiritual intelligence can lead people to find meaning.
Spiritual intelligence is not a religion (religion). Regardless of religion, human beings can give meaning through a variety of beliefs. There is a feeling her life meaningful by saving the seals. There’s a feeling meaningful by making a beautiful painting. In fact there who feel they have meaning in life by taking the dangers of climbing the highest peak bother Everest in the Himalayas.
Because humans can feel a sense of various things, religion (religion) directs human beings to find meaning in a more distant. Meaningful in the presence of God.This is the true meaning of which is directed by religion, because the source of meaning except God is not eternal.
There’s a wrong impression that the successful people are not that religious. This is due to news about the corrupt, liar, greedy tycoon, who has a fortune by not kosher.Because of these bad guys ‘looks’ rich, then the public gets the impression that most rich people are evil and greedy people, the oppressors of the poor. Actually just the same, many poor people are also evil and greedy. Evil and greedy no relationship with rich or poor. The truly successful people, who gain wealth by lawful way, there are many who are very religious. They donate their wealth in charity road.They founded hospitals, orphanages, cancer research, and various charities. And most of them avoid publicity. Various studies show that the real successful people to donate a minimum of 10 percent of gross income to charity, even when once they were poor. They realize that their wealth was entrusted of God, ‘silent partner’ them.
Finally, through human spiritual intelligence is able to create meaning for his goals.Results of intelligence in the form of aspiration ideals given meaning by spiritual intelligence. Through spiritual intelligence as well humans are able to remain happy on the way to the coming to the ideals. The key to happiness is Spiritual Intelligence.
3. Intellectual Intelligence
Driven desire to achieve the ideals of human use third intelligence, ie intelligence relating to the process of realizing, the process of creation. This is the gift of intelligence quotient (Intellectual Intelligence), the intelligence associated with the human ability to learn and create something.
Some people call it a talent. Indeed, every person endowed with different strengths in this intelligence. The powerful mathematics like Einstein’s easier to understand math problems, solve problems, even defining a math problem. On the other hand, a Michael Jordan is the man who has a flair for basketball. He easily dominate a basketball game (learning ability) and can perform in the game with amazing (capacity creation). Michael Jordan has a different intellectual intelligence with Einstein. The successful person is clearly seen as a good learner. They learn and keep learning. Because they believe that God is Infinite Justice, they were convinced that the unique talents given to them will be able to use to achieve success.
If it’s true that the people were given the same potential to succeed, why some people managed to reach his goal while others don’t? Apparently in the process of realizing these ideals need to consider the creation capabilities of other factors besides talent: emotion.
4. Emotional Intelligence
Studies show that the role of emotions in achieving the goal was far greater than the talent. Finally realizing there are other things, emotional intelligence (Emotional Intelligence), the human ability to detect and manage emotions both within themselves and within others.
Study of successful people show the same characteristics: a strong self-control.They recognize themselves and be able to control emotions. They fight the emotion of fear, worry, hurry, pleasure-loving, low self-esteem, to finally win a personally courageous, tenacious, patient, simple, and free spirited. They were also able to recognize emotions in others, so it can present themselves well to others, able to cooperate, and be sensitive to mutual help.
5. Power Intelligence
And finally the fifth human being is aware of the intelligence of the intelligence forces (Power Intelligence). It’s human intelligence in recognizing and managing the forces of good in him and outside him.
Intelligence forces are determining how effective and efficient person in the business achieve its goals. People intuitively know that by using the tools she can work more efficiently. Humans make use of fragments of stone to be used as a knife. With it man can hunt more efficiently and effectively. Humans also know that working together with other human beings can make the job easier. Humans combine the power of talent, strategize, cooperate, create tools, even a dream (make goal) together. All this is a sign that humans endowed with intelligence in managing a variety of strengths.
Some people are more intelligent than most other forces. This phenomenon explains why some people achieve success faster than others. They are intelligent power not simply rely on his strength but also intelligently manage the power outside of himself. Forces of nature, human power, animal power, as well as abstract instruments that humans were created through agreements such as money and legal. The forces here are intelligently managed by successful people to achieve their goals.
“Character and Competence”
Fifth intelligence SEPIA illustrates two important things in man, namely character (Character) and abilities / competencies (Competence).
The characters are the things that relate to human behavior. In the past, the character is considered as the most important measure of human beings. Because it is in the stories of ancient knights emphasis on attitude, honesty, perseverance, patience, and the like. Slightly different in the early 20th century, namely the industrial era, the ability (competence) to be an important measure. Competence, namely matters relating to the creation, becomes important because of industrialization requires abilities higher. Because at that time humans were able to create systems that are much better (engine, the wage system, the system of punishment, etc.) then the character becomes a rather neglected field. At this time humans are believed to measure success can be seen from the level of IQ (Intelligence Quotient), which further illustrates the potential of human competence.
View of human re-balanced at the end of the 20th century with many research findings about the role of a person’s character for success. In the late 20th century re-crowded discourse EQ (Emotional Quotient), AQ (Adversity Quotient) and SQ (Spiritual Quotient). That has not been much discussed is the existence of an intelligence-force management (Power Intelligence) and intelligence aspiration (aspiration Intelligence) which along with sepia model is the core contribution of this writing.
Current character and competence is seen as important. A person when applying for a job for example, will be tested both competence and character. They are believed to be successful on the job usually has the necessary capability (competence) and the character required such as honest, diligent, patient, respectful, and so on. A person who has a very high skill but questionable character can be dangerous. She may be smart, but may not be responsible, corruption, cheating, making the work atmosphere is comfortable, and so on. Conversely, someone who only has character but without competence is also not useful, because it can not create value. Okay he is honest, diligent, respectful, but if you do not have the necessary education and skills will lead to many errors, inefficient, ineffective, and can even harm because of faulty work. Using people with good character but without competence as dangerous as people who are not competent character.
Character and competence are like night and day, like yin and yang. Both need to exist simultaneously, influencing each other, and balanced. Without one of them a man into a limp. Sepia is the concept of intelligence paradigm (worldview) new character development-competence, which is consistent with the concept of Group Theory psychological factors (Factors Group Theory). Paradigm sepia gives significant and fundamental changes in understanding, developing, and utilizing human intelligence. The end result is a change in the education system, recruitment system, evaluation system, and how to act in everyday life.
“If U want a small change, just change U’r behavior. But if U want a great and fundamental change, U have to change your paradigm.”